Coming to the Philippines my initial fear or my constant fear of going to any country for that matter is being discriminated against or disrespected due to my racial group which of course is like a worry for any cautious black person who travels. Though there are less black people here which I have seen like three since I got here, I haven’t being discrimination in any way or feel disrespected or mistreated due to my racial background.
Philippines its an overly accepting community which is diverse with cool loving people who are willing to help and smile at you when you make eye contact. I can’t count the number of times I have been helped by locals who barely know me, it’s all simply amazing which really makes me want to stay more or call here home in the future.
Whilst there are overly good people there are also the others who will giggle at my strange kinky hair or pinch their friends to have a look at my hair and when I notice I will be kind enough or maybe petty enough to ask them if they wanna touch it which hit them as a shock and they smile nervously.
There are those who are brave enough to ask to touch and ask if its real but hey I don’t blame them or think of it as discrimination in any way. Most of them haven’t left their country yet and maybe I am the first black lady with a kinky hair they encountered as most of us wear hair extension which i thought of ordering online but the price and vat i have to pay sent me back taking care of my unique hair, i dare to be different and be an art exhibit for the naive ones who haven’t encountered a black girl with kinky hair ever . Hey come to think of it, dont i deserve a medal for that or something?
One thing I am most thankful for being here is the fact that I am gradually building my self-confidence and its here that I learnt to love myself for who i am. It’s really being a life changing experience the few weeks i have been here that maybe i might consider furthering my education here in the near future as they have low-cost of tuition for university education with recognized degrees all over the world. I have had so much fun and seen a lot and met people but really as i have confessed earlier i am not really a travel blogger to document everywhere i go which is really not my niche unless i feel like i want to write about a particular encounter. I prefer to have my fun and keep the memories in my heart and write about those i want to share with my readers which really doesn’t make me a travel blogger which kind of sucks but the work that goes into travel blogging frankly i am not prepared for , believe me i tried but it just wasn’t for me.
My travels are basically a sort of therapy to me to rediscover myself as a person ,what I like and dislike, what I can adapt to and not . Learn more about myself and build on my personality and what I want to do with my life or the path i want to take. So far it has been a great encounter in this amazing country which i have learnt some things about myself and realized what i was missing which then again doesn’t make me a travel blogger but something either more than that or less than that. What I have learnt so far is being bold and doing me and not let words get to me and not allowing others opinion about my life matter . I have learnt to be more confident and love myself and currently i am working on being less introverted. I have realized i am a great conversationalist and fun to hang around with which i didn’t know about myself earlier.
There is obviously other destinations I may move to in the coming year but the Philippines will always have a place in my heart as really it taught me a lot and it’s still teaching me a lot about life and myself as a wolf which am thankful. Anywhere I go, i will always be proud to buy a return ticket to Philippines as it will always be the home i never had.
Have any of you used traveling as a therapy or self discovery? How was it? What is your favourite place you like to call home and will always like to go back to?
I will like to know in comments down below. Until then the wolf is out…..